A lot of people want to turn and run away when painful things happen which creates barriers and walls. It takes intentionality to move toward each other when painful things happen rather than move away from each other. I think you’re constantly making decisions that are sometimes difficult to sow into the great love remaining great.Īs a wedding present, we received a devotional, and once we got married my husband started it the day after our wedding. And I feel we had a great love but you constantly are building it to maintain its freshness and intimacy. James: Yes, it is! Now I really believe that a great love takes great commitment and great surrender to God in the process of that great love being built. The book helped me in, you know, dating being successful.ĬP: You ask in your novel, is it still possible to find a mate and live happily ever after? What do you think now? I was writing the book part of the time while we were dating and I was learning things that were helping our relationship. James: I was single when I first got the idea for the book. I’m asking readers to come along on a journey with me.ĬP: When you wrote this book, were you dating Jacob at the time? And if so, did you take the advice of everyone who contributed to this book? It comes from that very real place and puts the spotlight on someone else. And I wanted to learn because I wrote this as a single girl looking for answers and trying to figure men out. And I’m a very curious person so it was such a fun thing for me to ask questions and discover and learn. I’ve kind of written more of the journal format where I’ve actually taken excerpts from my journal and written from that very real place in my life but this one it was like the tables were turned and it was like I was the interviewer, and I was discovering along with the people who are going to read this book what guys really think about dating and romance. James: It’s very different from any book I’ve ever written. It’s just beautiful the way marriage is planned.ĬP: Now, on to your new book What Is He Thinking? What was your goal in writing this book? Was it more of a journal for you? And we’re just both so committed to being all in and in it for life. You know it’s going to take your love deeper but how much deeper it went with the engagement and oh my goodness with marriage, it’s like there’s just this sense of joy and security and massively deepened love in knowing we’re going to do the rest of our lives together.

And the connection and how the love deepens with the commitment of marriage, I think that’s been surprising to me. it’s just been the biggest gift from God ever in my life. Just having a soulmate that cares about every part of my life and is so with me. I’ve just noticed in ministry I felt more empowered by the encouragement of his love. As far as surprises, I’ve been surprised by the healing power of love. James: Yes, even more than what I thought. Now that you’re finally married, is it everything you thought it’d be and more? Any surprises? James talks about her new marriage, dives deeper into her book, and leaves readers with some tidbits of wisdom she’s learned along the way in her own journey with God and man.ĬP: Before we dive into the new book, I wanted to ask you about your marriage.

In the following exclusive interview with The Christian Post, St.

Her book is being heralded as the “ultimate field guide to men,” and hopes to answer the longing question in many singles’ hearts: “Is it still possible to find a mate today and live happily ever after?” James honestly and thought-provokingly tackles the too often confusing desires of the opposite sex and seeks to unpack what real Christian men are looking for in a woman, detailing everything from the top 10 turnoffs for guys to the do’s and don’ts of relationships. 26.ĭeclared as “a must-read for every girl who is wondering where all the good guys have gone” by radio host Sean Hannity, the book explores one of the most difficult subjects every woman has a hard time understanding – men.ĭrawing on the frank conversations she’s conducted with 16 single guys and 11 happily married men, St. The acclaimed singer, also a bestselling author, now has a new book, titled What Is He Thinking? What Guys Want Us to Know About Dating, Love, and Marriage, ready to hit stores Sept. It’s been an exciting year for the gifted songwriter, who released a new album in April, starred in several indie films like “Suing the Devil,” “The Frontier Boys,” and “To the Wall,” and wed the man of her dreams – Jacob Fink – in April, fulfilling her decades long promise of abstinence until marriage. Five blissful months later, we’re catching up with Grammy Award-winning Christian artist Rebecca St.

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